We are happy to announce that Jacob Gregory Finch was born today (August 20, 2007) at 4:09 pm. Both he and mom are healthy and well. Jake was born a big boy - nine pounds exactly - much larger than any of our other kids. Twenty and a half inches long and a nice round fifteen inch head circumference (Tammy loved that during delivery).
Here is a picture of him just a few minutes after he was born.
His first bath a little while later. He didn't like that much.
He seems to mostly like when he can be held by mom.
But he did pretty good with his brothers and sisters too. Here's four year old Lizzy holding him this evening.
Six year old Anna with her new baby brother.
Even eight-year old Adam couldn't help but smile holding this precious little one.
And two year old Ben has a new pal. He's very excited!
Tammy and I dropped the kids with some friends early this morning and went to the hospital. Because of some concern, the doctors wanted to induce labor a few days early (Tammy's due date wasn't until later this week). Shortly after arriving at the hospital, they broke her water hoping that would start labor. The rest of the morning were spent wandering the hallways at the hospital hoping the contractions would start, but nothing really happened.
Around noon, the nurses came in to start the IV with pitocin, but had a very difficult time finding a vein to insert the needle. Three nurses tried twice each before they finally got one (6 rather aggressive needle sticks in all). Here's a picture of Franken-Tammy after all the poking. Notice all the band-aids on both arms.
Once the pitocin started, things picked up pretty quickly. Tammy was phenomenal throughout the whole experience (as she always is). She's never used any pain medication with any delivery before and thought going in she might try it this time to see what difference it made. But when it came down to it, she chose to continue without medication. I usually just stand there in awe the whole time watching how well she controls her pain and feeling kind of helpless to do much.
After just four hours of labor, she was fully dialated and given permission to begin pushing. It took just 90 seconds or so from that point until the baby was born. The nurse was pretty impressed - she commented that Tammy was the most controlled labor patient she'd ever had (and she's been doing this a long time).
We feel very blessed that everything turned out fine. The doctors have been confused, not understanding why the baby was not affected by the disease Tammy has (which nearly always seriously afflicts positive blood type babies). Our Iowa City doctors have all said that most likely the baby somehow has negative blood and that's why he's not shown any problems. But today we learned otherwise - Jacob has O-positive blood.
And so we attribute the health of our little one to a miracle from God. All babies are miracles from God, but we feel especially blessed that this baby was born entirely healthy. We know that many of you have been praying for this baby and we thank you for those prayers! Thanks for your interest in our family and your love and concern throughout this pregnancy. We are so happy to have our new little one here with us now!
Well, I have gotten several phone calls this past week concerning the upcoming birth of our baby. We had thought he would be here by now, but, alas, he is not. We had our last ultrasound in Iowa City on the 7th, about 38 weeks into the pregnancy (I think I counted 13 ultrasounds this pregnancy, crazy, huh!). The baby is still doing AWESOME! However, as a precaution, they like to induce at about 39 weeks. The problem is this has to all be coordinated with my doctor here in town. We had tenatively scheduled the 14th as the day to go in, but then he went out of town and I wasn't able to see him for two weeks. The doctor I saw instead felt this was too early. I told him the Iowa City drs. wanted me induced at 39 weeks (they had also sent a letter to this affect). He asked if the baby had an exchange transfusion, I said no, and he said they probably just didn't want me to go over my due date. I knew my doc was on call on the 18th so I asked him to schedule it for that day. He said my doc had changed call days so now it is scheduled for tomorrow, the 20th! That is only 3 days before my due date (I guess I should be thankful it is not 3 days after). It is no fun having to be induced either. Letting your body do it the natural way is so much better.
I am more than ready to have this baby. At our last ultrasound they asked me if I have big babies. The largest one we have had is 8 lb. 3 oz. This baby's head was off the charts at 38 weeks and they said he was measuring 8 lb. 6 oz. give or take a lb. (I pray it is not give). That was nearly 2 weeks ago. This has given me more anxiety than normal about giving birth especially with it being pushed back a few times. Add to this the fact that I have been asked several times if I am having twins (one person even asked if I was having twins or triplets!!) and I have been a little nervous. I talked to my dr. about this. He said I wasn't measuring too big and that he would be surprised if the baby was over 9 lb., but that they would closely monitor things. He is a great dr. and I like that he has delivered 3 of my babies already. I don't know if he can remember those births, but I like to think he knows what to expect at least a little. It also gives me some comfort knowing that my mother gave birth to a 9 lb. ? oz. baby. How big were you Shane? I am built a lot like she was, so hopefully things will all go well. It would just be so difficult to have a C section with 4 children and a baby to take care of, and no family that could come and stay for an extended period. I know our church family would take good care of us, but you hate to have to need it for so long.
Amidst all the waiting the kids have been anxious too. Ben tells me almost everyday, "I want my baby brother to come. How long until the baby pops out?" (if only it were that easy, pop!). We have kept busy though. The kids started school this week. At least I didn't go into labor the first day of school. They are both enjoying it so far. It is nice that the routine and the school are familar to both of them this year so they have had less concern. Anna was worried, but then the first day went so well, she has been fine. I know our routine is going to be screwed up a bit with the coming of the baby, but hopefully it won't take too long to work all of that out. It has been nice to have more time with Liz and Ben. I just can't believe how much quieter it is around here without the older two. Ben has also done SUPER with potty training. He hasn't had an accident in several days. He will even tell me when he needs to go even if we are at a store or church or whatever. That is a huge relief to me. I just hope that it continues after the baby comes. I have just been trying to complete as many little projects as I can and stay caught up with the house and laundry so there is less for Greg to worry about when the baby comes. I can't remember the last time he had to do the laundry! It is great the kids are older this time too. The older two have been making their lunches for school (with a little coaching) and can get their own breakfasts. I think this will help me so much. They are also good at entertaining Ben and doing their daily chores. I think they are excited and looking forward to the baby's arrival. It has been amazing how they have just sort of known, intuitively, the last few weeks that it is very near (OK maybe the shrinking size of my lap has something to do with it).
Well, hopefully our next post will be about our new baby and how healthy he is, and what a great labor and delivery it was. PLEASE keep us in your prayers. Soon the Finch 6 will be the Finch 7!
Adam and I traveled to the Iowa Straw Poll in Ames on Saturday. Besides the extreme heat, we had a fantastic time! The Straw Poll is a mixture of a mock election, a giant fund raiser, a good old fashioned political rally, and a carnival. Sponsored by the Republican Party of Iowa and paid for by the campaigns, many of the candidates come together to participate in this mock election. Roughly 30,000 Iowans showed up for the event yesterday.
Besides the voting, there was tons of free (and very good) food, free carnival rides, tons of information and rallies about nearly every political subject imaginable, live concerts, parades, and typical carnival games.
This is a shot from the top of a ferris wheel that Adam and I were riding down on the Romney camp. The blue tent on the left is the band stand where the concerts were happening. On the right are the food tents, and in the rear on the left is the game area for kids. This picture was taken early so there weren't too many people milling about - at the height of the event, the entire area was packed with people. This is just the Romney area - all the others had similar camps set up nearby.
This is a shot facing the opposite direction sitting down near the blue bandstand. I took this picture to show some of the parades that were happening. They were kind of impromptu parades when groups of supporters from one candidate would march through another candidate's camp chanting something in support of their candidate. This is a shot of one of Ron Paul's parades marching through the Romney camp. It was all done in good spirit and I think everyone participating in those marches was having a good time. Ron Paul's supporters were definitely the most vocal of the groups.
After enjoying the party outside, we all went into the basketball arena to listen to the speeches. Each of the candidates spoke for 20 minutes or so about what they stand for and what they intend to do when elected. It was a great opportunity to hear really what each are all about. Adam only lasted through about 4 of the speeches, so we didn't get to hear everyone, but he was interested in what he heard and I think he understood fairly well what they were talking about. There were some candidates that, when they finished, he would lean over and say, "I didn't like that guy." I usually agreed with his assessment, though there were times when the crowd would go wild on some point that I didn't agree with and Adam would join in the cheering and yelling, then look at me, who wasn't cheering, and say, "Oh, that wasn't a good thing?".
There was plenty of time to "mingle" with the candidates and get autographs and shake hands. This is a picture of Adam getting close to shaking hands with Mitt Romney. I didn't get a picture of it, but Adam did eventually get up there to shake his hand. Mitt told Adam that he liked his hat (he was wearing a BYU hat) and thanked him for coming. Adam was very excited to meet someone famous. We spent some time in each of the other camps as well and got to see many of the others.
Since this wasn't an official election, there was no voter registration. Instead, we did like the Iraqi's when they had their election - marking that we had voted by dipping our thumb in permanent ink. This is a shot of my thumb after I voted.
This is at the bandstand while Romney was giving one of his speeches with his five sons standing behind him. I couldn't get him in the picture, but Adam was up at the very front right next to the guy in the white tee-shirt with gray hair. You'll notice on the left the television camera filming. There was tons of media there all day, and CSPAN was airing most of the event live. Right after I took this picture, the guy with the camera on the stage knelt down and pointed the camera right at Adam for about 20 seconds. When the speech was over and Adam came back to me, he said "I think I was on TV". I said, "Yeah, you were probably on National TV, Adam!" He, of course, thought that was pretty cool. If any of you happened to be recording CSPAN yesterday, let us know if you've got Adam!
Here's Adam standing behind the "Mitt Mobile". One of Romney's sons bought this RV and he and his family have been driving it all over Iowa campaigning during the last few months. He managed to visit all 99 counties in Iowa before the straw poll.
Here's Adam on the ferris wheel. That ferris wheel was the oldest most dilapidated machine I've ever seen. I couldn't believe they still let it operate! Yet, I still took my son on it - we were both kind of nervous!
The ferris wheel was sponsored by the "Fair Tax" lobby. It's a group pushing a new tax system called the "fair tax". It's basically the idea that you get rid of income tax and all other taxes and simply create a federal retail sales tax of 23% so that you're taxed not on what you earn or what you save, but on what you spend.
While there is some merit to that - it's certainly "fair" since everyone is paying the same rate, it seems to shift the tax burden from the wealthy to the middle and lower class (fair, but painful for us middle and lower classers). Also, as Tammy pointed out, it could be rather burdensome to large families (like ours) who currently enjoy a lot of tax exemptions because we're raising a flock of future tax payers. There are provisions to help with some of that (for example, I think things are tax free up to a certain established poverty-line limit, so the poorest of poor don't pay taxes), but I don't know how far they go.
What do you all think of the idea? You can read more at fairtax.org if you're interested. This was one of the biggest lobby groups there and three-fourths of the republican candidates have endorsed this concept (Romney has not).
Next - we have a video of Adam on the climbing wall. He really did awesome for his first time climbing and went up quite a bit higher than I think I could have gotten!
And, last but not least here's a random picture of all the kids completely unrelated to the straw poll, just because they're all so cute.
We had a great time! I've never been to a real old-fashioned political rally before and just had a great time. You could kind of get a sense for how politics was operated in the 1800's before television (although probably on a much larger scale here). As we were leaving, Adam said, "I want to go back next year!" I said, "Sorry Adam, they only do these every four years at most. And, if the Republicans win this election, they won't have another one for eight years." At that, he frowned and said, "Well, I hope the democrats win then!"
Results of the straw poll was Romney winning by a big margin with Huckabee coming in second and Brownback third. A few of the other candidates (Rudy Guiliani and John McCain) didn't participate - probably because they were both losing to Romney in the polls in Iowa and didn't want to suffer an embarrassing loss early in the campaign. The straw poll typically doesn't do much for the front-runners, but it will usually weed out some of those lagging far behind. I think Monday you'll hear of at least one pulling out of the race and potentially others to follow.
So, you've made it through another long political post, Auntie Ann (since she's the only one to comment on my last post I figure she's probably the only one willing to read this far!). I promise we'll drop the politics on the next post and have something more family oriented on our next post (hopefully some news about a new baby)!
Sometimes we just love living in Iowa! One of the funnest things for us is being able to participate every four years much more intimately than normal in the presidential election process. There is an opportunity virtually every day to go out and meet and greet one of the candidates.
A couple of weeks ago, Tammy and the kids drove to a neighborhood library to meet Barak Obama. Hillary and Bill Clinton were in town a week or two ago. Yesterday, Rudy Guiliani was chatting with people at the Bettendorf High School. This morning Tammy and I went and had breakfast with Mitt and Ann Romney at the Abbey Hotel (down the street from our old house).
You can get to know a candidate pretty well watching them in televised debates and reading their speeches and articles about them. But it's often much more insightful to sit in a small room with someone when they're more relaxed and more personable and just listen to them talk about their vision for America and to be able to ask your own questions directly to them. It's really a great experience!
So, in this post, we're going to open up a little more than we usually do about politics and give you an assessment of what we think of the candidates so far. We'll start with Republicans.
We really, really, really like Mitt Romney. I know, some of you are rolling your eyes thinking - he's Mormon, of course you like him. I'll just say that eight years ago Orrin Hatch was a Mormon running for president and we didn't even think about supporting him in the caucus (even after he came to our ward twice). He just wasn't our type. It's really not about his religion - honestly.
Here's what we like about Mitt Romney:
He's really, really smart. In our minds, this almost comes before anything else in importance. I think he has tremendous capacity to analyze extremely tough problems, to bring together people from a variety of backgrounds and viewpoints and really solve problems. I think a smart president is more capable of standing with confidence behind his decisions and won't have to rely only on advisers. Instead he can take the advice of the advisers and process that to make sound decisions. No more puppet presidents!
I think he's genuine. That was one of the most impressive things I felt this morning - he really believes in what he's doing for the right reasons. I don't think he's doing this to feed his ego or to try to put his name in the history books - I think he really cares about our nation and feels that he can help it. He has a passion for it, and it comes across clearly when you hear him talk - it's very motivational.
He's got some great leadership experience and it's obvious that he's a tremendous leader - in all the right ways.
He communicates very clearly and well. His arguments are nearly always well thought-out and well-organized and persuasive.
It seems he's been successful in every important way in life. His family seems great. We really liked his wife this morning and his kids have been very active and very involved in the campaign. If you haven't read his sons' blog, it's pretty good reading (mittromney.com - look for "5 brother's blog".
So those are the things we really like about him. Notice I didn't mention any policies and probably won't say much about them in this post.
Here's my take on policy in general. I believe that the president can come up with all the policies in the world and not ever make a difference if he's not smart, not genuine, not a leader, not able to communicate and persuade, and not successful in his personal life. Nearly every candidate running for president has some good policy ideas, some mediocre policy ideas, and some poor policy ideas - and my judgment of them are going to differ from yours. Some of their ideas will succeed, some will fail. I don't agree with any of them 100% (Romney included). But in my mind, I don't think that policy matters as much as ability in this job.
That's not to say policy doesn't matter. You, of course, have to choose someone who is going to use their tremendous leadership skills to move things in the direction you want them to go. We have spent quite a bit of time learning about the policies of the different candidates and I generally agree with Romney's policies and I think overall I'm more aligned with him than any others.
It's only fair if I mention a few things I haven't really liked about him:
Tammy and I have never been big fans of the 'war on terror'. All the Republicans (except Ron Paul) talk way too much about it and make it way too much of a focus. The war in Iraq does need to be a focus now because it's costing so much in every way (I'm not just talking about money). I don't know the best way to proceed in that war, but it does need to be an important part of the debate during this campaign. But beyond the war in Iraq, while some attention still needs to be paid to the 'war on terror', I think there are much more important and relevant issues our government needs to be focused on. And it seems that the Republicans (Romney included) are just too focused in this one area.
Romney is a politician whether he admits it or not. He plays the same games the others play. In some ways that bugs me, I don't usually like politicians. On the other hand, it's another indication of how smart he is - he knows he can't win the game unless he plays the game.
I've not been impressed with the organization of his campaign in Eastern Iowa. Adam and I are planning to go to the straw poll on Saturday and have had quite a confusing time trying to get signed up. That bugs me.
Okay - enough of Romney. I'll speak briefly about the others.
I like Guiliani's personality, but that's about it. I disagree with his stance on important moral issues. The fact that he's been divorced multiple times, doesn't have a good relationship with his kids, and is standing on shaky ground morally all-around makes me think he's not the guy I want as president. Also, some of his policy ideas just don't make sense to me - it seems to me he's not super bright. (Not to mention he's snubbing the Iowa straw poll - which doesn't make Iowans very happy).
I've never really like John McCain personally. He's never really campaigned in Iowa much, so we haven't gotten to know him well. I think it's admirable that he's served for so long and I think he's done some pretty good things in Congress, but Congress seems like a good place to keep him. He seems to be kind of worn-out on politics or something - kind of like, if elected, he'll stay the course but not really be able to improve things.
Of the "lesser-known" candidates, I like Huckabee pretty well. Don't really like Brownback (even though he's from my neck of the woods in Kansas). Most of the others are too extreme or unusual for my tastes.
On the democrat side, we started off liking Barak Obama pretty well. That's part of the reason Tammy and the kids wanted to see him. But we're starting to think less of him as time goes on. He's made some mistakes and hasn't been all that impressive in the debates. I will tell you one thing though - his campaign is by far the best organized of any candidate on either side in our area. Every major community event (4th of July parade and the Bix race to name a few) - his campaign turns out in large numbers recruiting people. None of the other candidates come close in that arena. We get calls from all the campaigns and his have been the best and most informative and friendly of any of the campaigns.
I'm going to say something now I never thought would cross my lips. I've always mocked the idea of Hillary Clinton running for president, but we've honestly been very impressed with her. I talked earlier about the qualities we look for in a good leader. She's right up there with Mitt on most of those things. It would be an interesting race if the two of them were nominees.
Well, if you made it to the bottom of this post, I'm impressed. I know most of you probably haven't even started to look at the presidential race yet, but it's impossible to avoid here in Iowa. It's on everybody's minds and everybody's lips these days. It's been said before that Iowans understand the importance of being the first caucus and we take that responsibility seriously (not to mention it's really kind of fun).
So now I've painted a big red target on my back. Go ahead and fire away! We'd love to hear your thoughts.
If the baby doesn't arrive by Saturday, Adam and I will be off to the Straw Poll in Ames. It's going to be a fun event I think. We'll post again to let you know how it goes.
We had some more medical excitement around the house last week. As the kids get older (and as we get more kids) events like these are becoming less exciting and more commonplace, but it's still out of the ordinary!
Adam was invited to a friend's house to go bike riding. He was especially excited because this friend lives in a more rural area and has some woods with dirt bike trails near their house.
Unfortunately, on the way to the dirt bike path, they were riding along a gravel road and the gravel got the best of him. I guess, being a city kid, he's not yet learned to ride on gravel. He fell and split his knee open pretty badly. The mom at the house patched him up, but he never made it back out on bikes that day.
Later that evening, we took the bandage off his knee and found quite an ugly sight. We decided we had better get him patched up so we took him to the urgent care place. Good thing we did - there was a good sized hole in his leg full of little rocks and grass and stuff.
Adam seems to never get nervous about anything, but I think I've figured him out finally. I think when he is nervous, he just covers it up very well. He becomes very poised, almost grown-up. He sits with his legs crossed comfortably and has a very serious look on his face - not a look of fear, but a very calm and peaceful, but still alert look. Every time I've seen him sitting like that, it's been before some performance or some other big thing that he should be nervous about. I think he's got an unusual ability to calm himself when faced with a difficult situation so he either doesn't feel the nerves or at least he doesn't show it.
He had the exact same look at the doctor's office waiting for the wound to be cleaned, and I realized he was probably pretty worried about it.
So, we go into the procedure room at the doctor's and Adam was still being VERY serious - answering the questions from the nurse in a very poised and mature manner. Finally the doctor came in and started cleaning and picking at the wound. I could tell Adam was in some serious pain - it was starting to show through and at one point he even gasped and said, "Oh, that hurt!". But he never cried and was just so controlled through the whole thing - I was very impressed.
After the doctor put in the numbing medicine and the pain went away, Adam was very interested in what was happening. He sat up and watched carefully. I could see the look in his eye, "Oh cool, look at all that blood gushing from my leg ... Neat - I can see down inside my skin when he pulls my skin out like that! Oh wow - did you see that rock that was in my knee!" And so on. I was grossed out, but Adam was totally entertained. Like I said, the doc had to pick around quite a bit to get the rocks and grass and stuff out.
Lizzy also went with Adam and I. She was soooo funny. The whole time, she was super talkative. She is our most un-shy child and was talking the whole time, asking the doctor every step of the way what he was doing. She would walk right over to him and stand there right next to him watching him work. The doctor was great - he answered all of her questions very well and wasn't annoyed at all. Lizzy was asking some great questions though so it was hard to be annoyed (such as, "How do x-rays see inside you?" and "Is this the stitches part? Is that a real needle and thread you're using?"
It was a good experience. I don't get to go to the doctor with the kids much - usually that's Tammy's department, but I enjoyed going and was pretty proud of both of my kids for how they behaved and how they are both maturing.
Following are some pictures taken the last couple of days. One with Adam's stitches (3 stitches) and then some of the kids at quiet time yesterday.
We've written before about a fun event that happens in our community every summer called the Bix festival. The biggest event during the festival is the Bix 7 race which draws nearly 20,000 runners from around the country. Tammy and I have both run the race previously, but this year we're not exactly in the shape we'd want to be running 7 miles!
The night before the big race (tonight), is an event for the kids called the Jr. Bix. A big race for each of the kids, followed by an awesome post race party (free food and a mini-carnival). Here are some pictures... This is Ben getting ready for his two year old 70 yard dash. He got stuck behind some big people (parents) but still made a good showing and had a lot of fun. This was his first year racing the Bix!
Here's Lizzy lining up for her race. She also ran 70 yards and did super well. Her heat had about 40 four year olds racing and she finished either first or second. She's a speedy one!
Here's a picture of the kids all suited up for the race. Anna decided this year to be a cheerleader instead of a racer. She had a great time cheering her siblings on!
Anna enjoying the post race party!
Lizzy showing off her medal (all the kids got medals).
Adam was worn out after his race. His was a 7/10 mile race through downtown Davenport. He said he thinks he finished somewhere around 15th or so out of about 80 8 year olds. Way to go Adam!!!
It is almost embarrassing to even write a post having missed so many months. I have given up on the idea of catching everyone up on all the things we have done, but thought I would give a quick update.
First, the baby is due in just one more month. Despite all the warnings and exhortations received before deciding to have this baby, he is doing very well. We count it as another miracle in our life. We have still had to go to Iowa City about every 2 weeks to the specialist hospital so they can continue to monitor him. That is difficult sometimes, but we are glad to have a close watch kept on our baby. We have just one more visit in 2 weeks. It has been so nice having my brother and his wife in Iowa City. Deanna has been so gracious and has watched the kids a few times for our appointments. She even seems to enjoy it! Thanks Deanna! We are still open for name suggestions. Just when we think we are getting close one of us finds a problem with the new promising name. We will not leave the hospital with a no name baby! I am sure it will come to us. Hopefully, sooner, than later.
Next, Ben. I have been wanting to get him potty trained before the baby comes. I like to stay home for about a week and just get it done, but there has not been a week where we haven't had anything. Then he had refused to wear underwear for months now. I was able to convince him to try pullups and we began to make a little progress, and just last week, in a moment of weakness he agreed to wear underwear. There's been no turning back since. He asked for diapers especially the first day, but I have held strong and he is only allowed to wear them to bed now. It has been a busy week with very little time at home so it has made for some interesting experiences (you'll have to ask Greg about bringing Ben to the bathroom at a restaurant). He is really doing pretty well, but we have yet to have a full day of no accidents of any variety, including church, restaurants, etc. It is not the funnest thing to do while I am this pregnant either. It seems like there is a lot of squatting and bending involved in helping him, which are not my favorite positions right now. Other than that Ben is doind great. He is really growing up. He communicates SOOOOO well and is generally a lot of fun to be around. He has a temper too, but his good naturedness seems to make up for it.
I think the kids have enjoyed being home for the summer. We have had several weeks of swimming lessons. Even Ben and I took a class together for two weeks. They all have loved it and made great progress. We have gone swimming several other times this summer too. I don't know why, but it seems kids love swimming. I like how it makes me feel more weightless:) We also went on a short mini vacation, spending one day in Nauvoo and two in Des Moines. We also did some fun things close to home, including sleeping in our family room altogether and a trip to the toy store for no good reason at all. It is always fun to be all together as a family. Adam also enjoyed his first year at Cub Scout Day Camp. He LOVED it. I thinks he wishes it were all summer.
Greg and I were able to have one last shabang before the baby came. Our kids split time with our friends the Jensens and my brother Todd and his wife, Deanna, while we spent a night and a day in Chicago. We went to see "Wicked", on Friday the 13th of all days. It was so much fun. We both loved the show, and even with all the traffic loved being in Chicago together. We slept in and ate at restaurants and went to the temple together. It is so wonderful to get time for just the two of us. I know with a nursing baby it will probably be a good little while before we get to do that again. I highly recommend all of you out there go on a date with your spouse sans children. It so good to focus on just each other.
Other quick news. Our basement flooded the other day when our sump pump quite working. Greg, the superman, fixed it and did most of the cleanup, with little to no help from the kids and I. I got a new calling at church. I am not the nursery leader (much to Ben's chagrin), I am now the Laurel adviser (translation: I teach the 16-18 year old girls). My doctor in Iowa City told us yesterday that I should be induced at 39 weeks so I have about 3 weeks or less until we have this baby. If I do get induced right at 39 weeks, it is the day after my kids start school, how's that for poor timing? Also, some guy in the elevator at the hospital asked me if I was having twins or triplets. Yes, people I am big, but NEVER ask a pregnant woman such a question! Greg and I have been following the presidential race alreday, as we do live in Iowa, and he is planning to attend the straw poll August 11th. Any bets that I will go into labor that day?
Well, I know there is not a lot of details, but hopefully you know a little more what is going on with us. Life is full and busy and wonderful (OK, and sometimes a little tiring). We have felt so blessed over the last few months, especially with the unexpected good health of our baby. We are often reminded of the Lord's love and care for us individually. He truly is aware of all of us.
It's been a little while since I've posted anything. Life just seems to be busy all the time these days.
Last Sunday, the Finch Family Singers made their official debut!
Our primary children (young kids ages 3-11) normally provide music for our church services on Mother's Day. This year, in addition to the large group singing, the primary music leader asked Adam, Anna, Lizzy, and Tammy to sing a group number. Ben decided he didn't want to be left out so he joined in the fun. I didn't want to ruin it, so I let the real singers do the work.
They did a phenomenal job! And I'm not just saying that because I'm proud. They sang one of the sweetest songs I've ever heard with the kids singing one part and Tammy singing the other part. It's called "Mother, do you love me?" (It's really called "Teacher, do you love me?" but you can change the words). You can listen to it here. It goes like this:
Kids singing "Mother, do you love me? Mother, will you care for me? Even if I turn away, or disobey, or go astray? Then will you love me still? Mother, will you teach me? Mother, help me choose the right? When I do not understand the Lord's command, please take my hand and lead me safely with his light."
Mom singing "Oh yes, my child I love you. My child, I'll always care for you. And with the Savior as our guide, I'll share the light, I feel inside, and you will feel his love for you."
There's more to it, but that's some of it. Now picture little Adam (age 8), Anna (age 6), Lizzy (age 4), and especially Ben (age 2) up in front of the whole church singing their part. They were so poised and sang so clearly and so well - I was just so proud. Even Ben didn't grab the microphone or throw the song book - he just stood there on his little stool and sang out.
By the time Tammy got to her part, I think nearly everyone in the congregation was crying they were so touched. That got to Tammy and she got a bit choked up when she was singing, but managed to finish. And she has such a lovely voice - it just added to the beautiful spirit that was felt.
Everyone that was there was so complimentary. I heard comment after comment after comment for this whole week. One dear lady said that she had never in all of her life heard a musical number in church that touched her so deeply. I wish you all could have been there!
That, I think, was the highlight of Mother's Day for our family. We love Tammy and the outstanding mom that she is. She cares for our little ones with such love and tenderness and the love our kids have for her is tremendous. It was wonderful for me to see them all up there together expressing that love through their music.
Lizzy smiles big for the camera. How could she not be happy with all that candy? Katelyn with her basket. Ben chowing down. Lauren, who only stayed with us one day and one night, showing how much fun she had!
The six older kids poised and ready to get started on the hunt for eggs (well really we all know it is the candy, not the eggs, they care about). Holly eating the goods. She and Ben weren't too interested in finding eggs once they cracked one open and discovered the candy inside. Too tough to wait. Anna and Charity inspecting their cache. Adam, the only boy except Ben, races in front to be the first to find his 13 eggs (yes, I filled 104 eggs all by myself. I can see now why some folks buy those pre-filled ones). Thank heavens no one fell down in the process.
Well, once again it has taken me a while to get to posting again, but at least it hasn't been 2 months.
We had a great Easter this year. Greg chose not to have bishopric and other meetings before church and had very limited appointments after, so we were all able to drive together, and he was home all morning. Easter sunday is our spiritual celebration of Easter. We had little lesson, a lot a review from the previous weeks FHE lesson. The FHE manual has a nice little program for Easter in it with scriptures and songs. We did a very shortened version for our family, but it is still nice. I really felt the spirit of the holiday and loved the article on the Sacrament, a reprinted talk from Elder David B. Haight, in the April Ensign. I thought so much about that. Easter itself was a very pleasant day. We don't do Easter baskets or eggs on Sunday, but I did give each of the kids (and Greg) a little treat gift at dinner.
The week before Easter was FULL. We watched our friends 3 little girls, ages 7, 5, and 2 for 4 days while they went away for some couple time. Our house was full and noisy and busy, but it was good too. It was great to get to know these girls even better than we already do. Holly, the 2 year old quickly came up with a fun nickname for me. She is in nursery with me at church and her mom generally calls me Sister Finch when talking with her. Holly affectionately calls me "Fincher". It is so funny. Especially when used in the sentence as follows, "Fincher, gotta go potty bad!" She had no problem calling Greg, "Papa", since her own dad doesn't go by that.
We were at home for those four days that week because I had too many kids to fit in my car all at once. Unfortunately the weather was freezing too, so we couldn't even walk to the park. They were all good about quiet time though and Adam went to play with a friend most of one day, which seemed to help. I also tried to have some fun things for them to do. On Friday, we added one more child to the mix when we watched another friends little girl for one night. Eight kids 8 and under! We dyed Easter eggs all together. The older ones really seemed to enjoy it. I hovered over the two 2 year olds to keep a cup of dye from ending up all over the place. Then Saturday morning we had our Easter egg hunt. Again too cold to go out, so we had it inside. The kids loved it, though. We had thought we found all the eggs, but we kept finding them for several more days. Then Saturday night we had our big Easter feast, ham, mashed potatoes, you know the usual stuff. One of the things I love about this meal is all the leftovers! This year I even got some recipes off the internet so I could use all of our ham up. We had some ham casserole on Monday and Split Pea and ham soup on Tues. and Wed. It was a hammy week, even without my sense of humor.
Anyway, we were so glad we could watch our friends, the Jensens, kids for them. They had watched ours for several days 2 weeks previous. When there is no family around, you find people to be your family. I got to love and know their girls more than ever. I am glad to know though, it would be pretty difficult to have that many little ones all at once. I love big families, but I think it is good that they are spread out at least a little more than that. It was exhausting at times! This was a golden opportunity too. I don't know the next time, we, or the Jensens will be able to get away like that. What a great blessing! I know it was weeks ago, but I hope you all had a great Easter and were able to think on the significant gift of the Savior's atonement.
I don't know if there is anyone even checking our blog anymore. I know it has been almost 2 months since we have posted, our longest lapse ever. I hope to become an active blogger again. It's not that our life is THAT boring, quite the contrary, it seems endlessly filled, and when it is not filled, I just want to sleep! How it happens that I feel like writing tonight, I don't know. I am exhausted from a very busy, long day, Greg still isn't home, and I have some sort of head cold or allergies, but .... the thought came to me that I should blog, so here I am.
Instead of starting 2 months ago and filling you in, I will start by letting you know what is going on in the here and now, and then maybe in subsequent posts I can fill you in on the past 2 months.
About a week and a half ago (that's close to here and now isn't it?) we went to Iowa City (about and hour away) to see the specialists at the U of Iowa hospital because they will be monitoring our pregnancy closely (you all did remember we are expecting didn't you?). It was great to have an ultrasound done and be able to see the baby. As always, we wanted to know the gender of the baby. Drum roll please....... we are having another boy! So far he is doing very well. He was moving around quite a lot, but our amazing ultrasound tech was still able to see everything the docs wanted to. To date, he is healthy. The only discouraging thing was they did some blood work on me, and my titer levels (how they measure the amount of antibody in my blood) had gone up, so instead of waiting four weeks to go back, we have to go back in 2 weeks, which is this coming Monday. I think the baby should be well at least for several more weeks, but they just want to be sure. The hardest thing about these appointments is that they are not something you want to bring children to, so I have to leave the kids for 4 or more hours. Not to mention that Greg is essentially taking off a half day for each one that we go to. It's frustrating, but I am glad that it is only an hour away for us, and that Greg's boss, at least right now, seems to be pretty understanding. I really like having him there. Having experienced this with Ben, you just never know when they are going to keep you there and want to do an amniocentesis, and that is NOT something I would want to be alone for. Anyway we will keep you posted. I was SURE the baby was going to be a girl, so we don't have a boy name picked out yet. Any suggestions?
Well I think that is about all I will do for tonight. It is a start anyways. Don't give up on us just yet, we will try to keep on blogging.
We had another birthday in our home. This one was a little more special than your average birthday. Adam is now a big eight years old. In our church, most kids are baptized when they turn eight. We believe that by the time they are eight they have developed a good understanding of right and wrong and begin to be more accountable for their actions. Baptism is a time for these young people to make their first covenants with God and to demonstrate a commitment to Him.
As bishop of our ward, I interview each of the young people turning eight to visit with them about their feelings about being baptized and to see that they understand what it means to make a covenant with God. It's always a great experience, but it was really neat being able to talk with my own son about such things in that kind of setting. Adam is an amazing boy. He really understands well much of the gospel - he puts things together in his amazing mind and is able to make connections that sometimes I even miss. Beyond his ability to think, though, he feels! He feels in his heart that the gospel of Jesus Christ is true and right and feels that his choice to be baptized is a good and right thing. It was evident his depth of feeling and understanding as I talked with him about his baptism.
Saturday was the big day. About the time we left for the church, it started to rain. Problem was there was a strong cold wind blowing through so the rain quickly turned to ice. By the time it was over, it turned out to be the worst ice storm we've had in this area since we've lived here. After the ice came several inches of snow on top.
Ice and snow notwithstanding, we were able to make the trip safely to and from the church. Several other families braved the slick roads to come and show their support. We were happy for that. The service itself was nice. Adam's great-grandpa was there and spoke to Adam and to the congregation about baptism. I then had the privilege of baptizing Adam. He was very emotional in the font. When it was over, I asked what he was feeling, and he just said, "I feel really really really really good inside." After the baptism Adam's aunt and uncle sang a beautiful song and our good friend gave a brief address after which Adam was confirmed.
Following his confirmation, another of our good friends spoke. She said, "Adam, you are an old spirit in a young body" meaning that Adam's spiritual maturity is well beyond his years (and maybe well beyond many grown-ups years). I thought that was a very meaningful way to say it - he really is an amazing boy in many ways!
After the service, we enjoyed some food and ventured home. Fortunately, we managed to keep our power on through the weekend (many others in the area lost power). Church was canceled so we had just a nice quiet weekend with family.
Following are some pictures of the baptism and also a few of Adam's birthday.
OK. I am ready to make a confession to all the blog world as to why I haven't been blogging much lately. I have been super busy and super tired. The reason that I have been so tired is because we are expecting baby #5! That' right folks, there will be a brand new Finch in the world later this year. I am about 14 weeks along (about 3 months). The baby is due August 23. I have really been well besides the fatigue and an occasional flareup of some varicose veins. I hope that now that I am entering the 2nd trimester I will feel even better.
Some of you may remember we had some RH incompatibility problems with Ben. We knew going into this that would be an issue this pregnancy as well. We will start seeing the specialists in Iowa City at 20 weeks. We are very hopeful that things will go well and that we once again will be blessed with a healthy baby. My titer levels (the way they measure how much antibody is in my blood) have been low so far, but with Ben we don't really know when they started to increase, but at 28 weeks they were more high. We will see, but, like I said we are positive and hopeful right now.
We just wanted to share the news. Our family is thrilled, and we want you to be thrilled for us too. Any prayers for our little baby our welcome too.
We have been talking it up with Ben, and on Saturday we finally made the switch to a big boy bed. For some of you, you may not consider a toddler bed, a big, boy bed, but anything out of the crib with nothing to contain him anymore is a big, boy bed. He is pretty pleased with himself and the kids have been great at encouraging him. How has he done you ask. Well, he has done really well. The first night or two he was afraid to get up at all after exhortations by both parents, but he has gotten up the last couple of nights, but after he says what he needs to say, and we tell him to get back in bed he does. Naptimes he hasn't gotten up at all. That may be because I close his door all the way at naptime, but not at bedtime. It is fun that he is growing up so much. He is starting to want to be a big boy instead of a baby now, which is pretty tough when your brothers and sisters all call you "baby" instead of using your name. I even got him to wear his church shoes for the first time on Sunday because I called them his "big boy shoes". Now he wants to wear them all the time! He's growing up so much I think in a week or two I will start potty training. He is almost 2 1/2 which is when I started with all the other kids. He is at a fun age, and some of his two year old antics have seemed to die down too. We love Ben!
So I mentioned that Anna had lost her two front, bottom teeth. I wanted to post a picture so you could all see. She has not liked us to touch or wiggle them at all. The first tooth she lost was very wiggly for several weeks, to the point where it could have easily been yanked out, but she patiently waited, wanting it to fall out by itself, which it did. I was starting to think it was never going to come out! She is much more patient than me. Her second tooth was getting to that really loose stage, and again she didn't want us to touch it, so we didn't. Unfortunately, it was taken out by a mean piece of garlic bread and promptly swallowed by Anna. At least that is what we think happened. We have never seen the tooth since. No worries folks. The tooth fairy still paid her a visit even though there was no tooth. Anna has loved that she is losing her teeth earlier than Adam did. Her first one she lost about a week before her birthday, and she is proud of the fact that she was only 5 and lost a tooth. Enjoy the picture of Anna. I took it first thing in the morning, so she is still in sleeping hair mode.
